Although the picture is quite dark, i think this is a Chinese Elm indeed.
If you have put it in the south facing window, and you are sure that it gets quite some hours of full sunlight, this isn't your main problem.
I've got a Chinese Elm in my south facing window, and it gets full sunlight for almost the entire day. Also, it's growing like crazy.
I assume the problem is somewhere else. First of all, I would stop cutting parts of your tree unless you have some clear aesthetic reasons. In my opinion, cutting will only increase the stress on your tree. So don't do it when you think your tree is dying, it won't make it easier for the tree to recover.
Pruning back a Chinese Elm to 2-4 leave per shoot is good, however don't do it too rapidly. Wait for a shoot to become rigid before you prune it. Also take into account some die back. So if you cut the shoot, it will die back up to 5-10mm. If you cut too close to a leave, this leave will then die back as well.
Finally, make sure you don't over water it. For me, once the top layer of the soil starts drying out, I will insert a wooden chopstick or wooden toothpick in the soil and leave it there for aprox. 10 min. By doing this you can check the humidity at the lower layers of soil. Also ensure that the soil and the pot allow good drainage of water.
Good luck!