Thank you both very much. I'm quite stuck for outdoor space for this Chinese Elm. Also the wife has decided she loves it indoors!
May I ask why you both suggested keeping outdoors? And will I be harming it by keeping it indoors?
Biologically plants have a much simpler genome than humans. We can adapt to a wide range of environmental conditions and they can't. Also, we can slap bugs and kill them; they can't. We have immune systems that work fairly well; they don't. This is one reason why the maple tree in the front yard produces thousands of seeds every year and why there aren't any baby maple trees out there.
Your tree evolved outdoors. It has been suited to outdoors live for millions, maybe billions, of years, and it has a hard time adjusting. Yes, you have indoors plants, but they were bred over generations to live indoors while the Chinese elm's immediate ancestors were all outside. Indoors the humidity is much lower and there is less air movement. This allows insects to attack the plant. Indoors there is almost no variability in temperature. The tree expects pretty hot and pretty cold. The tree also expects lots of sunlight, with wavelengths that are blocked window glass.
I have an azalea just covered in flowers right now. My wife thinks it looks beautiful on the kitchen table. Sure, for one day, then back out side it goes, to be replaced by another. So, get a lot more trees, and rotate them. Tell your wife to conform with her wishes you had to get a dozen more trees. Don't forget that you need space outside to keep a dozen. Actually, a dozen might not be enough...........