Looking through the posts in the last few months, I have noticed a clear increae of aggression on the forum. And I am saddened by it. Instead of focussing on the trees, their potential and routes for the future, somehow people have started to respond to eachothers'personality and style of posting. I have seen people openly battling it out in the forum. I have been attacked personally in private messages for my postings. I know of some others who also have been having their own private shouting matches. All in all, it makes for an unhappy forum at the moment, which is countering all ideas behind bonsai.
This is an international forum. That means people from all over the world can join and share their thoughts. And just like countries can disagree, and get in fights over things you actually do not disagree about, so does that happen on the forum. I would therefor like to suggest to all.. Instead of taking things being posted as personal, look at the content of the message.
Each person has a certain way of formulating a message. And the range is very big, often linked to the region you grew up in. In some countries, people are very direct in what they say. I grew up in one of them, and run into this issue inmy work on a day to day basis. Some people might call people from these regions rude. In other countries, people sugercoat the message. Some people might say they never get to the point and never tell the truth. Add to this the fact that a written text does not pass along the intend of the message, which normally is conveyed through non-verbal communication (A smile, a wink, a hand gesture), it is hard to interpret the meaning of someones post.
Can we perhaps reach a concencus that no-one on this forum is on the forum with malicius intend? And, in line with that thought, read eachothers messages with the concept of 'This person takes time to respond, let me see whether there is a grain of truth in the post', rather than respond to the style it was written in, and/or the absense / presence of suger coating messages?
Just a thought.
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I fully agree with your post and thank you for taking the time to write it out so well.
I like to add that it would help a great deal to realize how being direct is very easily mistaken for being rude, as well as being nice and positive can be mistaken for sugarcoating and not actually helping someone. Adding to that a personal note; I have bigger issues with being too critical than with being too positive. And I'm pretty sure most beginners would agree with me
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I completely agree. I run into cultural miscommunications all the time with my work. But I keep it professional and not let it get personal. I've learned a lot from this forum and take what I want and not let it get to me. I appreciate the moderator and all of the more experienced members on here. Most of all... I enjoy the slight jokes and imoji's. They help a lot with any questionable comments. I certainly have no problem doing my own research if I disagree with something or some one. If we can speak like adults, we will be heard as adults.